Offtopic Sofa Time

[ThyneAlone]

That'll teach me to look up in a proper dictionary instead of saving time with a translator!

I love different languages. I teach French and German ('veel geluk' is a little bit like the German) and I know bits of quite a few other languages, so I'd love to learn more Dutch.

If you spend time in the chat box you'll see that the TJ forum is quite educational anyway - we've used French, German, Greek, Danish, Spanish and more in there. I adore the fact that we communicate every which way and sometimes use several languages in a single conversation. Bring on the lessons!

[Wendy]

That'll teach me to look up in a proper dictionary instead of saving time with a translator!

I love different languages. I teach French and German ('veel geluk' is a little bit like the German) and I know bits of quite a few other languages, so I'd love to learn more Dutch.

If you spend time in the chat box you'll see that the TJ forum is quite educational anyway - we've used French, German, Greek, Danish, Spanish and more in there. I adore the fact that we communicate every which way and sometimes use several languages in a single conversation. Bring on the lessons!

Where can I find the chatbox? Still searching for it, sounds fun.

Lesson 1 in Dutch, starting of with, presumably a hard one,since it has 2 g's in it. Seems that foreingers find it hard to pronounce. So here we go:

Good morning - goedemorgen
Good afternoon - goedemiddag
Good evening - goede avond
Thank you - dank je wel (it's so sweet when someone tries to say that in Dutch).

Next time: recitation

[Jude40]

Hi everyone

Just a quick stop by, after my last post I'm going from Smurfs to Eddie McClintock (no connection I know, well except maybe Bones in a very losse sense!)

I just wanted to say that I noticed the link to his website on his FB page and wow the art work on there is amazing, very surreal so totally appeals to me and if anyone ever looks on there 'The Damage' is so going on my Xmas list.

Really, really talented, god I hate him

Anyway just thought I'd share

Catch you later

Jude x

p.s. Just a quick Smurf thought; what colour do they go if you choke them? mmmmmm.......

[SmackyKennedy]

Yeah, school starts again tomorrow!!! :character-beavisbutthead:

Parents should understand the above excitement. I love my child but he is just the type that needs a routine, and unfortunately I can't take off work with him. It has been a loooong and super busy week.

I did manage to plant some flowers out front today which did wonders for my mood...now hoping to wrap it up so I can veg out and watch Lord of the Rings tonight (dunno why I haven't seen them yet). Suppose I should get off here and get to work then.

Hope everyone that a great weekend!

[Wendy]

I'm starting school in a bit. and i had bad news already. We had to do a group assignment, but 2 people in my group didn't do their part, so it isn't complete. Normally i was so (stupid!/) to make it for them, but this time i said to myself that it is their problem if the teacher says something about it. On the other hand, we have to do the assignement again. . SO not looking forward to that.

Well anyway. I'm gonna get breakfast now. Must be out in an hour. My other classmated texted me way to early this morning (it's now 9.43 am over here, and i like to sleep late when i have to be in at 11.00).

Have a great day!

[TJ4ever]

Hi guys!
I joined a dating site today! Pathetic, I know - but today I was so sick and tired of being alone, of having no one by my site! I feel I don't want that anymore. Now with all the problems with my job I just need someone to be with me!
And I thought it may be at least worth a try to register at a dating site. Well, I don't know! I'm to old to pick up someone in a disco!

[jade.stormcloud]

I did that myself, sort of, a while ago. I did the quick freebie signup, but never actually fully joined. I just wanted to see what it was like. No job means no money to pay them with, especially since I can't imagine that anyone good would be attracted to me.

(I was actually rejected by the first dating site I looked at. LOL. Now THAT's pathetic.)

[Sinkwriter72]

(I was actually rejected by the first dating site I looked at. LOL. Now THAT's pathetic.)

Jade, that happened to a LiveJournal friend of mine, and I'm going to say the same thing to you that I said to her. (Though I excised out some of my soapbox cursing, to spare you. HA.)

You have no idea what their parameters are, how they calculate that stuff. You also have no idea how many people they have signed up. For all you know the people in your area aren't particularly interested in going through a dating site; therefore, maybe the site doesn't have much of a selection from which to match people. It's a computer. Please do not let a computer in any way dictate how you feel about yourself or whether or not you believe you are or can be attractive to others. (And coming from me, a person who has had self-esteem issues all her life, I know what I'm talking about.) A computer cannot show people your spirit, your sense of humor, your enthusiasm, your vibrancy. A computer cannot fully show how awesome you are. You are lovely, Jade, and no computer can prove otherwise.

And Simone -- it's not pathetic to want companionship. I think it's very brave of you to give it a try. You just never know what will happen. Maybe you'll find it's not for you, or that their selection of partners leaves something to be desired for your particular tastes. You're allowed to be choosy! Or... maybe you'll find someone with whom you really connect. Case in point: one of my sister's best college buddies ended up meeting the woman who became his wife. You just never know.

No matter what, you both are terrific women and deserve all the happiness in the world. I hope you find what you're looking or, be it job success or love or creative fulfillment, whatever your heart desires.

*hugs to you both*

And that's my two cents. Whether or not you asked for it.

[kayleigh_marie]

Here I am again,
*kicks back with a large cup of coffee*
So my mom wants to move to North Carolina.
In case you're not sure how far that is from here, I live in New York.
13 hours from Raleigh, NC.
So it's far.
I went on a HUGE job hunt this week, and things are going wonderfully with my boyfriend. So go figure, my mom has to uproot me.
I know, I'm 19. I should have a job and all that by now.
My concern is my little sister, Sara. Sharon, I think you talked to her once.
she's 14 years old. We just got settled in our new apartment in January.
She has some social issues, and just made new friends. I think it's a bit messed up to take her from her friends and family at the age she's at.
lol call me Sweets if you want, I don't care.

She just sprung this on me, and she plans to move when they get their taxes back this year.
I don't know when, though. I left the house and came to my dad's.
Growing up, I moved over 15 times. I don't like moving, and I don't fancy a trip to NC because my mom "hates new york"
*Gets more coffee*

I've figured her reasoning. Her mothers' death. She wants to get away because her mom died.
I know how my mom thinks. And i think that's her reasoning.
I will not be moving with them. I am going to be trying to figure out something until I can afford an apartment.
I'm done being a mother. I'm 19 years old, and I feel like I've raised a family. It's my mom's turn to be an adult.
And hopefully, me telling her that I'm not moving with her will be a reality check large enough to slap her in the face.

I know, I'm being immature. I'm sorry.
But it's nice to vent.
I feel better.

[SmackyKennedy]

TJ4ever and Jade,

Don't feel weird about the dating site stuff. I've thought about it too. It can happen...My mother and stepfather actually met on eHarmony a couple years ago and got married about 6 months later. Seeing them so happy makes me want to try it, but I don't know if I'm ready to go there. The single parent part is going to make it very tough. Honestly, my son is pretty difficult and it's going to take a strong person to take that on.

I do enjoy being by myself, but lately have been getting pretty lonely. I have a few girlfriends I've met through church who are great, but it's hard to get everybody together with schedules. Another problem is that I also watch waaay to many romantic comedies! I want that "moment" you know? I think I'm going to switch my Netflix queue to a difference genre, some Quentin Tarantino should help. :violence-uzi:

Everything that sinkwriter said was spot-on.

Don't feel that nobody good will like you--set your sights high! I've always had self-esteem issues too which is why I ended up with a couple loser boyfriends and a loveless marriage. I was like, wow, they actually like me, I'd better hang on to this--even though on the inside I was screaming nooooo. So anyway, good luck and have fun with it!

BTW a counselor told me to make a short list about what you will or won't put up with in a relationship, the important stuff like religion, kids, etc.... I thought it was a great idea, because at this point I don't want to waste anyone's time or mine.


Kayleigh...I do not think that's immature at all. If you are happy in NY and can do it on your own I say go for it. Be strong

[Wendy]

Just dropping by. I had class this morning. It ended at 10.30 and now i am waiting to have a talk with my councelor at 1.30pm.

So boredness all over today.

We're talking datingsites? Been there, not done it (but i am thinking about it). My love-life really sucks. I have met a couple of guys, but i wasn't sure about them. I gave it a shot, but it didn't last. One of them i know for more than 6 years, but he hasn't made a move (or i don't pick up at the flirting i guess ).

I'm not really a person who goes out clubbing that often, so i don't meet guys there. At my workplace, the only guy who works there is my boss, so that doesn't help either.

Do you think i should give online-dating a go? I'm still a bit unsure weather or not i should do it.

[TJ4ever]

Thanks AngMT and most of all big thanks to Sherry! *hugs* Sherry, what you wrote made me feel a bit better about putting myself out there on a dating site. Can't say I had much success till now, but well, you can't say it after two days! But I don't have high hopes. Believe it or not I'm a bit shy. Don't know if such a dating site will help much. But now I can say that I at least gave it a shot. Will try it for a while and keep you posted.

No news to report on the job hunt till now. Don't know what I want more. A boyfriend or a new job! Why choose?!?! I WANT BOTH!!!!

[jade.stormcloud]

No news to report on the job hunt till now. Don't know what I want more. A boyfriend or a new job! Why choose?!?! I WANT BOTH!!!!

I'll second that.

[hanneDK]

Been there, done that.. with that whole dating site.. never again!

For some strange reason I always attracted the wrong kind - you know the ones with a different agenda..
Although there where one I met a couple of times but something was missing - so we just stopped talking to eachother.

Years back I spoke via txt, mail etc with one - we never met, but he couldn't handle the time I spent on bowling.. He believed I was seing someone else "behind his back" - so jealous.. Couldn't take it..
I said no.. eventhough I said stop, he kept texting - I just ignored them. And if I remember right he actually texted one of my friends - apprently he still had her number from when I sent a picture of my at a party from her cell (my didn't have camera at the time).

Like some of you, I also have low selfasteem and if I now let an internet dating site or my ex's word dictate my life, I wouldn't have met you or been travelling - making my own adventures (Liverpool and the "US trip).
So I got a lot to be thankful for now - both you guys for making me believe in myself and off cause TJ for the impact he has.

So thanks!

[hanneDK]

There where some things I forgot to say..

Simone.. eventhough I have had bad experiences with dating site, don't let that get to you.. I don't think it's pathetic at all.. Go for it.. You might be more fortunate than I was..
I agree totally with Sherry - that don't let others tell you anything else.

Kayleigh: we all need to vent some times.. it's not immature..
About you're staying in NY - do it if you feel it's right thing to do.. you shouldn't act like the "mother" in your family.
I hope that something great will come out of it - will cross my fingers for you.

[JennyLea]

Wow Simone, you are amazing!!! I don't think I could ever have the courage to do online dating. You go girl!!! Just remember as Sherry Says, Don't let anyone get you down.

I met my husband when I was working at a local Big Rig truck wash. He was a regular customer and came in three or four times a week to wash his truck. It took me seven months to say more than "Print and Sign" to him. Our first conversation happened on a day when he pretended to lose his truck and stopped by looking for it. (He pretended his second driver took it). Just goes to show that not everyone meets in the conventional way. I wish you the best in your online search. A friend of mine found her husband online. One piece of advice that she gave was "Don't get caught up on the pictures. Take the time to really get to know him. You might just find your diamond in the rough."

Don't worry Kayleigh, I vent all the time... Just not on the site...lol!! I don't mind people venting.

I have news. I recently applied for a new position. It hasn't closed yet so I have not heard anything back yet. The position is for an Agriculture Fieldman job. I hope it goes well but who knows.

Jenny

[TJ4ever]

Thanks Hanne and Jenny! And, Jenny, fingers crossed that you get the job!

OK, dating site news! Found a guy I really like. And believe it or not, he watches Doctor Who and loves to travel to GB! It really fits! And he wrote to me first. Said he likes my profile. So he saw my photo and knows how I look. (...and he wrote to me anyway! ! It always makes me smile when I find a message from him in my inbox. I feel a bit like Meg Ryan in "You've got Mail". At the moment we still write eachother general things. Like what do you watch on TV, where do you want to travel to next, etc. But it scares me all a bit, because I think what happens if he ask me to meet. I can't meet him! I weigh too much, I need a new haircut, I don't know what to say, etc.! I'm scared he doesn't write me again. Scared he continues writing. I don't have much experiences concerning dating! It's all really scary! Hope you can follow me. I'm not really self-confident. So this falls in the category: Be careful what you wish for! But I guess I will try it anyway. Face your fears!!!

That's all for now!
See you!

[jade.stormcloud]

Wow, that's great! I hope it works out for you. And I totally understand the low self-esteem stuff.

[SmackyKennedy]

I was listening to one of my Chely Wright CDs today and one of her songs made me think of this topic. Actually any of her stuff is great for the lovelorn, I've been listening to her music pretty much nonstop lately. So may be corny but anyway...

What if We Fly
Reasons
We've got a million
To stop taking chances
And start playing it safe
Memories
Of old love can haunt you
I should be scared to death
But I can't walk away

'Cause what if we fly
What if we fly
And dive off the end of the world as we know it
What if we fly
Have faith enough to think fate might just know where we're going
What if the arms of the wind carry us to the place
We never could find
Yes, we might fall
But what if we fly

Answers
They don't come easy
I don't know what's wrong anymore
But I know when it's right
Only a dreamer
A truest believer
Can let the chains fall to the ground
And take to the sky

I know we might fall, but what if we fly.

[ThyneAlone]

That's fantastic Ang. Now what does it remind me of, let me think...

"Just one question. What if it doesn't end that way?

What if it doesn't go wrong?"

Simone, I am not quite sure how I feel about this, being pretty cautious by nature, but taking risks seems to work for some...

PS - Jade, I see from the chatbox you share my thoughts on this. Great minds!....